I have long taught that love is not a feeling. It is a choice. The feelings that I have had for my wife have swung a great deal over the years but the love I have for her has just grown. Twenty years may seem like a long time by today's standards but it is just a third of what is hoped for. We have not been together this long because we are any better than other people but because we both love Jesus and we have both decided to love one another.